How to Break Repeating Patterns in Life and Stop Going Through the Same Cycles
How to Break Repeating Patterns in Life and Stop Going Through the Same Cycles Have you ever promised yourself, “I am never going to do this again,” only to find yourself in almost the same situation a few months later? Maybe it is another relationship that begins differently but ends with the same emotional struggle. Maybe you repeatedly choose jobs that leave you dissatisfied. Or perhaps you keep reacting in a particular way even though you already know that the reaction does not help you. Now, recognising a pattern is certainly important. However, recognition and change are not always the same thing. You can know that something keeps happening and still not understand why you are drawn towards the same choices, situations, or responses. Hence, if you are wondering how to break repeating patterns, the first step may not be forcing yourself to behave differently. It may be understanding the pattern more deeply. What Exactly Is a Repeating Pattern? A repeating pattern is simply a situation, behaviour, emotional response, or relationship dynamic that seems to occur again and again. For example, suppose you frequently avoid difficult conversations. Initially, this may help you avoid conflict. However, unresolved issues gradually build up, the relationship becomes strained, and eventually you find yourself dealing with a much bigger disagreement. Now imagine this happening across several relationships. The people may change. The circumstances may change. However, the basic cycle remains surprisingly familiar. And this is what makes repeating patterns worth exploring. Why Do We Keep Repeating Something We Already Understand? You must be wondering, if I know something is bad for me, why would I continue doing it? Well, human behaviour is not always driven by logic alone. Fears, past experiences, ideas, and feelings can affect one’s reactions to situations. It’s interesting how one can sometimes feel better at doing something familiar just because they’ve done it for a long time. Spiritually, there is also a dimension of repeating experiences, including patterns or the influence of past lives, and karmic lessons. These are not scientific explanations but beliefs. For those who resonate with those contexts, however, they can help in other ways of looking at repeated experiences. Identifying the Pattern Clearly” is the first step in the process. To understand a cycle, you must first be able to see it. Rather than ask the general question ‘why doesn’t this work for me?’, be more specific. What is it that continues to occur? Perhaps you lose physical and emotional intimacy in relationships at a certain point. Maybe whenever you see an opportunity, you always question yourself. You may wait until a big opportunity passes you by. You might also be continuously putting the needs of others ahead of your own. See the sequence rather than the end result. What happened first? How did you react? What happened next? Where do you have a similar experience before? This can make an abstract sense of “stuck” become a real experience that you can study and investigate. Pay attention to Your Reaction, NOT just the Situation If a situation continually fails, of course, our focus turns to external factors. I don’t feel understood by my boss. Communication is not possible with my partner. I’m not afforded the opportunities I need. At times these observations might be entirely correct. But when the same things occur in other locations and with other people, it can also be helpful to look at your own reactions. This is not to say that you are responsible for all of the problems in the world. Instead, reflect on what you can control in this situation: What part of this can I control? The question can change the focus from simply cycling the cycle to knowing how you play into the cycle. Find the Question Hidden Behind the Pattern Sometimes we keep asking questions about the outcome when the more useful question lies underneath it. Suppose someone repeatedly struggles with relationships. Their immediate question may be, “When will I meet the right person?” However, there could be several deeper questions worth exploring. Why am I attracted to certain relationship dynamics? Why do I ignore particular warning signs? Why am I uncomfortable communicating certain needs? Why does a specific behaviour trigger such a strong emotional response? Now the conversation has changed. You are no longer only asking when the situation will improve. You are exploring what the repeated experience may be showing you about yourself. Can Akashic Records Help You Explore Repeating Patterns? For people interested in spiritual self-discovery, an Akashic Records Reading can offer a different framework for examining recurring experiences. Innerverse by Sshruti describes the Akashic Records as a type of spiritual “soul library” associated with experiences, memories, and wisdom connected with a person’s soul journey. During a personalised reading, questions may explore relationships, emotional cycles, career direction, karmic themes, personal growth and perceived past-life influences. Hence, rather than asking for a fixed prediction about what will happen next, you can use the session to explore questions around why a particular pattern may keep appearing. Akashic Records are a metaphysical concept and are not scientifically established. At Innerverse by Sshruti, the emphasis is on spiritual guidance and reflection rather than definite future predictions. Understand the Why Before Asking What Next Suppose you are standing at a crossroads and cannot decide which direction to take. Knowing your options is useful. However, understanding why you keep choosing a particular road can sometimes be even more valuable. This is where Akashic Records + Tarot Reading offers another approach at Innerverse by Sshruti. The Akashic Records element explores deeper spiritual patterns and themes, and Tarot is employed to provide guidance around the situation, choice, and perceived energy here and now. So, someone who is looking at a recurring theme in their career path can take the Akashic aspect and use it to look at the grander theme, and the Tarot to understand the context of their present situation. The goal is not to make the decision for you
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